(147) Nagging! Why THEY Will Never Budge

How many times can we ask the same someone 'to do' or 'stop doing' the same thing before giving up?

The answer is never, because the nagger and naggee have a special relationship that neither wants to change. There are just too many benefits.

The nagger can shake her or his head in mock or real frustration. He or she can use their best what’s-wrong-with-you-voice to ask, Why can’t you do (or not do) the simplest thing? All the while feeling superior.

On the other side, the naggee can enjoy the attention. It is a negative sort of interest, but many of us need more attention, and some mild negative is not really that bad, is it?

So, the situation, if not wonderful, is at least okay. Right?

Even if nagging is just a small part of the relationship, it is still negative, and the relationship between nagger and naggee has been known to spiral drain-ward.

Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

If a relationship without the nagging appeals to you, here are some ways to a positive change: If you are the one being nagged, well then, start or stop the complaint, problem solved. Although it will not feel good to let your partner have their way, you are the one guiding your relationship to the next level.

As for the nagger, consider picking your battles. Would the world end if you did not get your way? Besides, stopping that nagging flow of words is sometimes enough to push the naggee right into starting or stopping.

Another option for the nagger is to stop nagging and state the consequences; decide if it is that important, and then clearly say how far you are not willing to go. State exactly what will happen if that line is crossed.

And never, ever bluff.

Whether you are the nagger or naggee, if you are unsure about stopping, try it for a week. You just might want to keep that smoother, more peaceful relationship.

Note: The only person on the planet that you and I can change is the one writing or reading these words.

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